The holiday season comes around every year. For some of us, the holidays are timely reminders of what’s wrong in our lives instead of what we do have to celebrate. There are many reasons why the holidays can be particularly depressing. This year, with election fervor and a shifting political landscape, there are even more reasons to find peace with self-management strategies that will teach you to reduce self-harming thoughts & feelings to promote the very joy we are hoping to experience on the holidays. On behalf of Recovery Now, I would like to wish you the very brightest and most cheerful holiday season, and hope that the tools discussed in this article bring you closer to the space and mindset you need to feel safe and joyous at this time of year. As always, please discuss the strategies discussed in this article with your therapist and psychiatrist before implementing them in your living environment.
On the most simple of levels, the holidays are triggering. They are reminders of the past. For some folks, the holidays are reminders of past traumas, of events that unfolded in your life that went awry, sometimes, very awry. These reminders of past negative experiences during the holidays are brazenly overlooked and misunderstood by peers, family members, friends, and colleagues whom aren’t familiar with your personal history. Well, fortunately, nobody is an expert in your life but you. Let’s begin there. Did you lose a parent? a child? a job? an apartment? suffer an injury? These are personal traumas that we carry everyday. The holidays do remind us like a watch or a calendar of particular events. However, our choice to feel & think and make decisions to act on impulses associated with past events is advisable only you want to feel & think like you did yesterday. So, let these calendar reminders, these holidays, remind you to live in today. It begins with creating new memories, of establishing new goals for the following year, and most importantly, of re-imagining tomorrow, today.
On a deeper level, there are certainly extra-personal issues, events (e.g. political) that will make us feel a particular way about the state of things. To be very blunt, some readers of this blog are VERY upset about the election results. It was a long, long election season for most us, and unfortunately for many folks out there, people are feeling particularly divided among their peers, family and colleagues on either side of the aisle. Well, let’s really get underneath all of this for a minute. I’ve been reading a lot of posts on social media where people are truly voicing their anger, and, conversely, their happiness about the election results. As a therapist and peer I never speak or discuss politics, its simply not advisable, but I do give advice on how to live in a world with politics. Love, listen, and radical acceptance. If you buy in to these three things, and believe in them unconditionally, why are you letting the election interfere with your joy, your connections with friends and family members? Many of you folks are already doing what you need to do to make positive lasting changes in the world with your careers and life choices. Ultimately, harm reduction models suggest acting on impulses if need be to the very point in which more bad is done than good. This holiday season, choose to reduce the harm this extra personal event has in your life, and choose joy.
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