What is considered ‘normal’ behavior for a teenager in High School?

Views: 384
1 0
Read Time:3 Minute, 50 Second

I can relate with others just fine.

Sure, at times, I am a little awkward. But the majority of my social history has been successful, albeit a few important blips I feel are important to highlight. 

These blips signal that mental health professionals sometimes are too quick to label or pathologize social behaviors as problematic–and other times–totally unaware of red flags when it comes to school-age children in the course of their education


I will spit it out. I have issues with naturally making friends. While I engage well with other people, friendship is a different thing. Friendship has more of a long-term connotation. Friendship also is an investment, emotional and otherwise. In this vein, it should come as no surprise that my long-term planning stinks. I am also poor when it comes to my finances—almost a direct result of poor investment and planning ahead. 

Back to how friendship works. I first investigated my issues with friends in a memoir I published about my experience in Middle School. During the writing of my memoir Wales Middle School: the rise of J. Peters, and after. I began to see patterns with specific behaviors I was enacting when relating with other students in school.

The behaviors I am citing were maladaptive coping mechanisms. I was projecting and acting out towards others. I was having a hard time dealing with being awkward socially. My kinship-building skills were abysmal, but for the most part, they were good enough or ‘passing.’ I made and kept a few friends. Enough to satisfy my thirst for socialization.  

The issues I experienced earlier on in childhood and during my education became ‘clinically significant’ in High School. When I say ‘clinically significant, the issues I was experiencing met the diagnostic criteria for psychiatric diagnoses. Or, did they? 

The difficult layer here I hope to unearth and make visible for students and people with ongoing trouble finding joy in others’ company is a message of normalization. Behaviors, feelings, and thoughts during adolescence are irrational, dangerous, intense, and almost every shade of label found in the DSM-5.

When I was ultimately hospitalized, my psychiatrist was quick to emphasize to myself and my family that it is important not to make too much of a diagnosis for adolescents. As a practicing therapist today, I find my psychiatrist’s words years ago a gentle reminder to place just the right amount of value on a diagnosis. Enough to communicate my patients’ issues in real-time so proper medication or mental health treatment can be prescribed by myself or others practicing with ease and precision. 

Back to my experience in High School. The small issues earlier on in Middle School, very much tucked away from school staff, metastasized later on. I am suggesting when I was upset with any given situation during the school day. I was labeled by staff as volatile. Verbal transgressions were much more threatening and alarming to school staff. My usual tendency to isolate (even to play videogames or spend time with family instead of students my own age) was no longer viewed as autonomous but signs of deepening depression. The narrative I am painting isn’t suggesting some students may have severe mental health issues requiring a psychiatric hospital or need medication.

No, the narrative I am painting suggests that some students fall into a social “no-fly zone” in terms of socially acceptable pro-social behaviors for their age or whatever context they are fitted into by mental health professionals. 

For example, when a theoretical student crosses into this no-fly zone, the school staff’s alarms or clinical antenna rise. Oh heck, back when I was a student, it was as if NORAD (North American Aerospace Defense Command) was picking up unidentified flying objects out of Russia moving into our airspace. 

I’m serious. Emergency meetings being called by social workers. Phone calls home to parents. Even a “wellness” check by the police! My point is, this can be seriously traumatic for some students. Students that cross into these no-fly zones are moving targets for school administrators and mental health professionals. 

The reality and truth are, these are students may be just fine but are misunderstood. Regardless, whatever signal these students are creating with their behaviors. Like in my case, students can be grossly misread. This is the real danger within high schools’ across America. 

About the Author

J. Peters

J. Peters is the Editor-in-Chief of Mental Health Affairs.

Award-winning book author and Bold 10 Under ten award recipient J. Peters, LCSW. Through his work as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Mental health therapist and disability rights advocate Mr. Peters fights for those without a voice in various care systems, such as the New York City Department of Social Services, the New York State Office of Mental Health, or the city's Department of Corrections.

Mr. Peter's battle with Schizophrenia began at New London University in his last semester of college. Discharged from Greater Liberty State Hospital Center in July 2008, Jacque's recovery was swift but not painless and indeed brutal after spending six months there.

He has published several journal articles on recovery and mental health and three books: University on Watch, Small Fingernails, and Wales High School. He is also a board member of the newspaper City Voices. Mr. Peters currently sits on the CAB committee (Consumer Advisory Board) for the Department of Mental Health and Hygiene in NYC and the Office of Mental Health (OMH) as a peer advocate.

Owner of Recovery Now in New York, a private psychotherapy practice, Mr. Peter's approach is rooted in a foundation of evidence-based practices (EBP). Jacques earned a master's degree in Social Work from Binghamton University and worked as a field instructor for master's and bachelor's level students in NYC.

He is blogging daily on his site mentalhealthaffairs.blog, Mr. Peters regularly writes articles relating to his lived experience with a mental health diagnosis.

administrator

Happy

Happy

0 %

Sad

Sad
0 %

Excited

Excited
0 %

Sleepy

Sleepy

0 %

Angry

Angry
0 %

Surprise

Surprise
100 %