Maintaining a healthy work-life balance is essential for overall well-being. I can’t tell you how many times over the years, sometimes multiple times in one day, in which the work-life balance has been such a challenge for me to figure out. It seems like I have been on more working “vacations” than leisure vacations. The number of people that have been vying for my attention seems to have increased with time. “Can you do that” or “can you do that” have been piercing my ears more times than I care to remember.
Early in my career as a peer specialist, I was oftentimes to quick to say “yes” to everyone because I wanted to be liked. I had this fear of being alone and not belonging that it caused me to overextend myself and thus, developing a need to stay busy and be around people to avoid the feelings associated with loneliness. Of course, that developed into more stress and burnout because I was not taking care of myself physically and emotionally. It was always about someone else–and God forbid I say to people that I need to take some time to myself. I was deemed selfish, which offended me and I throw myself back into being there for others more than being there for myself.
Moreover, my work-life balance has been, at times, severely disrupted by some of the romantic relationships I have been in in recent years. Four relationships have ended in such disaster because either the blokes (guys) are straight-up narcissists or have narcissistic tendencies in which the universe totally orbits around them and I didn’t have an identity. My identity is whatever those mates said it was. I was very rarely left alone for fear that I would escape and tell the world how awful those people were to me behind closed doors. When they move, I move. Sometimes I had to beg these guys for opportunities to work and engage in my passions apart from constantly being around them, which have been emotionally draining for me.
Here are some tips to help you achieve a healthier balance:
Setting Boundaries: Be specific and be clear what your boundaries are with others. Sometimes you may have to set up boundaries for yourself and to yourself.
Define Work Hours: Stick to specific work hours as much as possible. Avoid checking emails or working outside these hours unless absolutely necessary.
Communicate Boundaries: Let colleagues and clients know your working hours and availability. This sets clear expectations.
Physical Separation: If possible, create a dedicat workspace that you leave when the workday ends.
Prioritization and Time Management Prioritize Tasks: Focus on the most important tasks each day. Use tools like to-do lists or time-blocking techniques to stay organized.
Delegate When Possible: Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to others. This frees up your time and allows you to focus on higher-priority items.
Limit Distractions: Turn off notifications, minimize social media use, and create a distraction-free environment when working.
Schedule Breaks: Take regular breaks during the workday to recharge. Go for a walk, stretch, or meditate.
Unplug and Disconnect: Dedicate time each day to disconnect from work and engage in activities you enjoy
Prioritize Sleep: Aim for 7 to 8 hours of quality sleep every night. This will help you feel energized and focused.
Exercise and Healthy Diet: Regular exercise and a balanced diet are crucial for physical and mental well-being.
Say “No” More Often: Don’t feel pressured to take on extra tasks or responsibilities. It’s okay to decline.
Practice Mindfulness: Focus on the present moment. This can help you reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.
Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional, or attend a support group if you’re struggling with work-life balance.
Achieving a healthy work-life balance is an ongoing process that will take time and effort. Experiment with different strategies and be kind to yourself along the way to find what works best for you.